To balance our lives we need to conduct an objective assessment of what we are doing, what we want and what we need to do to get there. Balance becomes the fluid mid-point on our priority scale, once we have these goals and objectives in place.
A ship will sit higher or lower in the water depending on the amount of ballast or cargo it carries. It will still float but will perform differently. A particularity heavy cargo may make for a slower journey but may also result in greater financial returns. Our balance point is also like this. We need to be adaptable and acknowledge that at times we will make great strides quickly and at other times, be destined for a slow journey.
Like everything worth accomplishing we need to work at it and usually this means working very hard. If it was easy everyone would do. Are we everyone – no!
Setting realistic and achieve goals in our search for balance in life or body is vital. Use this goal setting exercise to identify what it is you want, the steps you need to do to get there and the things you have achieved so far to help you remember how unique you are.
Write your goal or goals down. Visualise the you in the future when you have achieved your goals, see how you look, feel how you feel, hear what you hear, and remember these modalities. If you can get your body on board with your thoughts, your unconscious mind will start propelling you towards your goals, even if your conscious mind is not aware of it.
Divide your life into sections that make sense to you, for example: Professional, Personal, Social etc. Record your goal(s) in the section that it fits the best. For some people this can take the form of a scrapbook or a diary, you can even cut out pictures of the things you want to achieve and stick them into a scrapbook book or diary, this can also help immensely. Remember the more you can see something in your mind the more likely you will be to achieve it. Examples of pictures may be a student graduating, someone getting your dream job, people traveling, someone running or in perfect health, an Olympic gold medalist, a surfer in the perfect barrel etc.
Add to each of these sections the steps you need to take and achieve in order to accomplish your ultimate goal(s). If you find this hard to do you may find that the following can help. Do the exercise for each of your goals.
Divide your life into three sections which make the most sense to you. Write down three things in each part which you achieved.
1. What qualities do you have, which by having them, enabled you to achieve the above? (Write as much as you can)
2. Describe how you would like your life to be in one year’s time. Be as specific as possible. Describe what you would like to have learned.
3. How could the qualities you have described in question one make it easier to achieve what you have described in question two.
4. What goals will you need to have achieved in six months time to be on track for your 12 month goals?
5. What goals will you need to achieve in the next month to help you reach your six month goals?
6. What can you achieve in the next two weeks that will help you reach these goals? Make a list of them and tick them off as you achieve them.
Remember, good luck is usually a product of good planning; all the best for 2013